So I'll seek out advice here.Please give me your input on this. Post a Reply | Views: 354 | Started By: Tim Sale | Replies: 3 So i was in college 7 years back.  I met a wonderful woman.  she and I dated had great conversations and really connected.  while she was seeing me, she was also seeing, on a regular basis, one of the instructors at this college.  3 dates into it, she disappeared. the class ended and I never saw her again.  I did however keep wondering about her through my relationships since. 3 years later, she e-mails me.  says she's missed me and wants to see me, date me, hang out and the like.  she coems over and we kiss and make out and eventually i go over to her house and we make love and all it yippee skippy.  except she's still with that instructor guy, only now they're engaged, and bought a house together.  we talk about it, and what shes' gonna do, never hintign tat she'd leave again without a word.   one day in august she disappears.  later i find out she's broken it off with her fiancee, and she's moved into a relatives house far from me.   she doesn't want to see me, but we talk on the phone as friends not so often.  maybe a year later she tells me she's a lesbian. I meet up with her 3 years later, (this is present day halfway though june) I've broken it off with my girlfriend at the time who helped me lose my job.  talking to the woman whom I cherish very much i find out she's in a committed relationship with a not so nice girl she's taken into her new apartment.  (i should tell you now that the woman i love is also very very smart shes' going for her second bachelors in math this time) she invites me over since i'm in a position where i'm questioning my sexuality and i'm asking her help in figuring it all out.  well, we start that way, but before long we're making out.  she tells me she wants a baby, that her relationship with her girlfriend is ending and that she's intent on beign with me for a very long time.  i am exstatic about this as she's a great woman i love her very much. then she kicks that woman out.  now she won't return my phone calls.  we barely talk, and we don't talk about her and I.  and i get the feelign she's in a confused state.  I realize she's een through a lot and has probably been in better times in her life, but i'm unsure how to proceed on this.   I love her, i know she loves me, but i don't know if I should bring it up to force a confrontation, ot so let it lie nad wait for her to initiate this.   I mean I could go over to her house with a boombox and play that peter gabriel song liek in "say anything..."  (she loves that movie) but I don't want her to reject me. what do you think?

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Well, you seem to be in a mess... You say you love her, right? Did you hear her telling you the same thing ever? Anyway, she's probably going through a difficult time now, I think u shoudn't press on her now, leave it as it is. If her feeling for you is true and strong - she'll return to you soon. Just give her time to think everything over... That's the most sensible decision to my mind. Responded: Queery   yeah she's always loved me and said as much.  lately and back then.  she's pretty complex and is bipolar.  she's on medication adn see's a psychologist and she's pretty well balanced i think.  she does have a lot on her mind.  perhaps you're right. I jsut hate waiting I suppose. Responded: Guest   Do you know anything about bi-polar disorders? It sounds to me like she is not taking her medication the way she should. Bi-polar can make a persons personality change radically. That kind of sounds like what's happening here, when she disappears or doesn't want to talk to you. You really need to get some info on this disorder if you are going to try a serious relationship with her. My cousin was diagnosed with this and until her doctors found the right combo of medication she had some major personality swings, and was difficult to deal with. Responded: Good Luck