Am I being played with? Post a Reply | Views: 260 | Started By: *isabella**medici* | Replies: 2 For the past 18 years of my life I have lived with my mother, visiting my father at his house every other weekend.  My dad’s lived in the same house for about ten years now.  When we first moved, I found a playmate in the neighbour’s son – a boy only a year older than me.  Whenever I would come down to visit my dad, we would play together.  But one time my sister and I were here, and we built an amazing snowman, and came out to find it ruined, my dad blamed the neighbour and his friends and said they were bad news, so he forbid me to hang around them.  From then on, he had something against them, and I didn’t see the boy for years.  But, two years ago, I came to work with my dad for the summer.  I saw the boy around, but we never acknowledged each other.  One day, when there was about a week left in the summer, though, he waved, and I waved back.  I ended up sneaking out one night, getting very drunk with the neighbour, and passing out next door.  My father was less than pleased, adding to his dislike of the boy.  The next time I came down though, he allowed me to go next door for a party, with a strict cerfew odf course.  We kissed that night, and I received an e-mail after I went home saying how much he cared for me, and with promises that he would call.  He never did, and we didn’t talk for a little while.  But we eventually started again.  Now I have moved in with my father to go to school.  I’ve been here three weeks.  Two weeks ago, we talked all weekend.  We went to the movies on Saturday, and then kissed that night.  He made me promise it wouldn’t be a one night thing, and kept saying how everyone would have to get used to us being together.  But we had also both just come out of long term relationships, so he said how he didn’t want anything to come of this.  It was rather confusing (he’d had a few beers at the bar with me).  The next day, though, he called me, as promised, and when I went over he motioned for me to come sit with him on the couch, and put his arms around me.  It was great.  I didn’t call the next day, thinking he would call if he really wanted to see me again.  He didn’t.  So Tuesday I called him.  We made plans to hang out later.  Two of my other friends called to hang out with me, but I said I had other plans.  I saw him walk by my house, he waved, and didn’t return.  I waited for a call, and it never came.  The next night I was determined to figure it ot, so I went over to talk to him.  We said he apologized for the way he was treating me lately, and he knew it was bad.  He told me that his ex-gf had been calling him lately and that he didn’t wanna get into anything and that he had known me too long and he was scared that I was going to get all serious too soon.  He didn’t sit down, and kept pacing the whole time.  He could hardly look at me.  I assured him that he didn’t have to worry about me becoming too attached, or hurting me, but that I ddn’t appreciate having my plans dicked around.  We left it at that, and didn’t talk for a few days.  I had a date on Saturday, so I decided I’d go have a couple beers with the neighbour before I wnet out to ease the jitters.  We hung out and laughed, it was fun.  I thought about him the whole date, though.  When I got back, I was relaxing on my porch out front, when who should walk by.   He came over and talked to me for a couple hours.  Sunday went by.  Monday I called, and asked him to go running with me, we went and hung out a bit after.  He asked me to go again the next night.  We did.  He asked me to go to the movies Wednesday.  But then my friends invited me to go see a friend I hadn’t seen for a while, so I called and left a message with his mom that I couldn’t go, but that maybe we could go Thursday instead.  Noth . ..ing Thurs.  Friday I called and we hung out at his place, watched movies, talked.  We even talked about how weird our relationship has been in the past, especially recently.  He said that it was “his bad”.  He just didn’t want to get into any commitments.  But then we talked about my mum’s place, and he said how he’d love to go see it with me sometime – he brought it up.  He didn’t call Saturday, or today, although when we parted Friday he said, “If you wanna come watch the rest of that movie tomorrow, that’s cool”.  I said, “ok well you can call me for a change if you wanna hang out.” And laughed.   I just have no idea what to think or do.  I can’t stop thinking about him.

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I think you shouldn't plan anything with him.... As far as I understand, he's still attached to his ex. You can't be sure you are the only one... He just keeps in tuch with you just in case.. Look, how many times have he called you? And how many times it was you who did it first? This explains everything. You thinka bout him most of yout time. He thinks ab you some-rare-times... I know the heart has a will of its own, just try to switch over to someone worthy. You know, to be heartbroken is a nasty thing... Responded: sera   I agree with her yes, and yes he still likes his ex but if he just recently got out of a long term relationship then it will be hard for him to get over for awhile...I was the same way i jumoped into one to fast and ended up never talking to the new girl friend again and broken up. Which was a dumb thing on my behalf Responded: chris