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| Difficult Problem, she really likes me, need advice
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Hi, I'm new to this forum but I have a quite tricky problem that I really need help with cos I dont know what to do.
Right, here goes. I found out today that a girl I know really likes me. Normally Id be pretty happy about this, but this time Im really stuck and I dont really know what to think. Thing is shes 15 and Im 20. Bad start. Shes also the sister of one of my ex-gfs whom I've stayed friends with and who now means a lot to me as a friend. Not only that, our familys are good friends as well. My mum went to college with her dad. Was down at her house this wkend (as I do sometimes, Im friends with them all) and she was being quite friendly.
Examples: Always sitting close to me preferably touching me with something (like a leg or just sitting so we're touching).
Making excuses for other ppl to leave the room so that we'd be alone.
Touching me in a flirty kinda way (you know, touches to the shoulder, hair, leg etc... to emphasise a point)
Getting angry when people would take her seat (next to me).
Now, I wasnt doing anything to actively lead her on but I wasnt discouraging her either. To me, it just seemed like she was being playful/flirting like teenagers do (opinions on this theory please) but my ex noticed and pointed this out to me. I really dont want to hurt her. The whole family means a lot to me and I do care about her, but this cant happen right now for obvious reasons. Theres way too much at stake. I need some advice on what I can do to let her know this. To let her know that its not bcos I dont like her (cos I do). Its not bcos I think shes unattractive (cos I dont). I dont want to wreck her self-confidence if you see what I mean. Anyway, any advice would be very much appreciated.
Thanks.N
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Yes !!  This is the real PROBLEM ! (i mean She is 15)
I had similar situation... and you know.. i was confused... just like you.
Yeh..Whatever..You shouldn't take the whole things so seriously. She is 15 !! Cos it's flirt ! Moreover she doesn't really know what she's doing... or playing on/with you, if she does! We all were teenagers... just go back in time.
So flirting my friend (!) and have good time instead of getting mind troubles.
Good luck 
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| Responded: Cinco |
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Hey, you're in a pretty mess.. The earlier you talk with her - the better itll be for you both. Try to explain her popular that you like her, but you want to be just friends - and nothing more so far.. If you can do nothing about it - say that you have a girlfriend or whatever... She's a little girl, it's normal that she's flirting (it's a flirt!) with you, she will have a lot of guys to flirt with - don't take it seriously. It now seems for her a whole world, but in several years she'll change, and most probably switch over to somebody else.
Just talk to her - it's the only way possible, to my mind.
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| Responded: Guest |
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This is one instance where age [b]IS[/b] a problem. In most states, the age of consent is 16...hence anything you do or (she convinces others you did) sexually could lead to your losing years of your life to the penitentiary 
Dependent on how you feel about her, I'd definitely put this one on hold till she's older.
After she's 18 or so......the age difference won't mean anything.
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| Responded: Guest |
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I would guess that since you have already dated the older sister, there is a strange sort of competition going on between the two of them.
This younger one has probably had a "crush" on you since she first saw you with the older sister.
If you still care about the older sister it would probably be a bad idea to start anything with the younger one. Not only will you have stress from this, but it will cause tension between the two sisters, too.
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| Responded: Guest |
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