What to do? Post a Reply | Views: 249 | Started By: DawnFire | Replies: 1 Hi everyone, I was hoping maybe someone could help give me advice or anything. Before I start, I just want to say that I know a lot of people have posted on getting over an ex and just forgetting about them and I probably shouldn't be posting my own topic about it when I could read someone else's, but everyone's situation is different and it would be nice to have individual responses to my own.Ok, with that said, I'll share my little story! My problem is that I'm having a really hard time getting over my ex boyfriend and throwing away my feelings of love for him. My ex and I dated for almost 9 months and he was everything I had hoped for. Within a few months, I had fallen in love with him. He was my first love. Well, the thing about our relationship was that we weren't exclusive, we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend. We sure acted like we were though, which was why I didn't want to date other people. He told me he had never felt the way he did with any other girl and that he felt so lucky to have found me. When he talked about me to his friends, he called me his girlfriend. Well, the day came where he told me he was seeing other girls and I was heartbroken. I felt like my heart had been swallowed by a sea of hurt and despair and I broke things off. Within a few weeks we were back together b/c he realized he had taken me granted and cared about me a lot. The problem with that was I was so emotionally scarred that I was afraid to open my heart up to him again, for fear he would hurt me again. Then he broke up with me telling me we were too different for each other, and I blame most of that on me. Once again, I was heartbroken.A few months have passed, he went away for a while in boot camp for the army and came back and we talked a little bit after that online and sometimes on the phone. 2 months passed though, w/o us saying a word to each other and the day came when we saw each other for the first time again. I had been performing with one of my choirs, and he came up to me, gave me a big hug, and told me that I was the prettiest one up there. We were outside, and he kept trying to offer me his coat and gloves b/c I was trembling with cold, and he tried to offer me his arm while we walked up the icy stairs. Now, I know none of that means anything, but it brought back so many feelings I had been trying so hard to repress. As much as I try to deny it, part of me still loves him and I still think about him a lot. Part of me wishes we could get back together, or at least go out for a date to see each other again, even though I know nothing like that will happen. I still get jealous when I think about him possibly being in love with another girl, and that drives me crazy b/c I know I should be happy for him if that were the case. I just don't know how I can stop thinking about him and caring about him. It's getting so frustrating for me and it leaves me feeling very weak and vulnerable for feeling this way. Sorry this got pretty long, maybe all I needed was for someone to tell all this to, but if any of you have any advice, please feel free to give it. Thank you!

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Hey, don't be so hard on yourself- I think you reacted pretty realistically. And telling your story, I believe, is always therapeutic. Unfortunately, there is no remedy for a broken heart- only time. You're not going to stop thinking about him or caring about him- and it sounds like he probably cares about you, too- just maybe not as much as you need him to.Your best bet is to allow yourself to move on- I always have found that the best cure for lost love is to get out and have fun. It takes a while, but if you can start enjoying your life without him, eventually you'll be over it. Good luck and you will be ok. Responded: Precious